Getting surgery is just part of the process.. to succeed you need so much more..

If i have learned anything about losing weight, it is that its 30% physical and 70% mental.. Motivation to succeed is EVERYTHING, you won't lose a damn pound (and keep it off)... unless you have the motivation and will to do so... 

Don't get me wrong I realize you can lose weight by getting surgery, but unless you get off your butt and work for it. How long do you foresee those pounds saying off? Getting surgery doesn't fix everything, I am a firm believer that people who turn to weight loss surgery should have mandatory counseling before and after. That their insurance companies shouldn't sign off unless the contract mandates there is counseling at least twice a month.

Most people I have talked too, haven't even made the stride after surgery to continue with group therapy. I cannot understand this, as having others to talk to about what you are going through can only help. There are so many of us that scream we don't know whats going on, and worry about the complications. Which is why we turn to online for help, but there is something to be said about having people in person to help you when things get tough. Having that life line where you can have someone come over at 3 in the morning when you are staring down that last cupcake your family brought over, and your evening what complete shit.. 

Therapy doesn't mean you are crazy, it honestly means that you are willing to agree you cannot do this all by yourself. And having someone else in a group setting to bounce your problems off of is never a bad idea. I know for myself I have tons of people online i can talk too, and vent.. I have family here if i honestly needed them they could help. My own mother has had gastric bypass and I turn to her often to share our new food finds, or just in general talk about how things are going. There is always someone to talk to if you honestly need it, don't ever feel as if you are alone. If you feel that way its by your own choice, there are groups and people out there but you have to make the first step if you want to get better. 

I feel as I travel down this path, going deeper and deeper into the rabbit hole that I need the support of people who have been through this more and more each day. My husband is fantastic, but he is a string bean lol, he has the exact opposite problem he cannot gain weight (muscle). So though he has no idea how hard it is to lose weight he tries his best to accommodate my diet and work with me and my food temper tantrums daily lol. 

I realize half of my problem, when it comes to food... It tastes good LOL. If they could just stop making tasty food id be fine!! But alas food is only going to get more tasty and its going to be my job to continue eating clean, and training hard each and every day. I will mess up, and I am okay with that because it makes me human. And at the end of the day I am proud of my accomplishments and im truly figuring out what being happy feels like for the first time in my life.. 

Well thats all for now my pretty little losers.... From your favorite Villainess N~ <3